Balancing family and work can feel like walking a tightrope — especially as a Nigerian living in the UK. Whether you’re juggling childcare, supporting relatives back home, managing shift work, or building a career in a new system, “balance” can feel like an illusion. But what if we stopped chasing balance, and instead aimed for integration?
Here’s how to start building a more sustainable and flexible work-family life that reflects your priorities — and your reality.
1. Define what’s really stressing you
When work and family feel overwhelming, take time to put your thoughts into words. Ask yourself:
- When I’m at work, I’m worried about…
- When I’m with family, I’m thinking about…
- The biggest obstacle to a balanced life is…
You may discover that cultural expectations, family obligations (like sending money back home), or even lack of community support are major sources of stress. Acknowledging them helps you find solutions that work for your unique situation.
2. Talk to your family — honestly
Cultural pressures can make many Nigerians feel like they have to “do it all.” But have open conversations with your partner, children, or extended family. Sometimes, you’ll realise that they just want more time with you — not perfection. For example, if you’re feeling guilty about not cooking every night, you might learn your family enjoys takeout if it means less stress and more togetherness.
3. Ask for help — at home and work
Don’t be afraid to ask for flexibility at work. Many UK employers now support hybrid work, flexible hours, and mental health days — but you have to speak up. You can also set boundaries at home. If you’re the go-to person for every errand or favour, it’s okay to say “not today.”
It’s also okay to look for help in your community. Find support through your church, local Nigerian associations, or WhatsApp groups — sometimes all you need is someone who understands your experience.
4. Use your benefits
If you work for a UK employer, check if your job offers:
- Mental health or employee assistance programmes (EAPs)
- Paid leave for caregiving or health
- Childcare vouchers or family support schemes
You’re entitled to use them — don’t let cultural stigma stop you from prioritising your wellbeing.
5. Lead by example — especially if you’re a community figure
If you’re a manager, a pastor, or a community leader, your actions set the tone. Take your leave. Respect work/life boundaries. Speak openly about the need for rest and support. You’ll give others in your circle permission to do the same.
6. Remember, it’s a long game
There will be seasons where work takes more of your energy — and others where your family needs you more. That’s okay. What matters is the overall integration of your responsibilities and priorities.
Try not to measure success by the day. Instead, ask: over time, am I showing up meaningfully for the people and goals that matter most?
Final Word:
As Nigerians in the UK, we often carry double loads — navigating British systems while holding strong family and cultural ties. But that doesn’t mean we must sacrifice one part of our lives for the other. Work/family integration is possible, and your path doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
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