– A Guide for Nigerian Parents in the UK
Title: How to “Snub” a Bully – The Smart Way
Raising children in the UK as a Nigerian parent comes with unique challenges, especially when it comes to helping our children navigate school life and social situations. One area many parents worry about is bullying. Whether it’s verbal, emotional, or physical, bullying should never be tolerated.
It’s important to teach our children that they have a right to respect and safety, and that it’s okay to speak up when someone is being unkind. Below are 10 powerful yet respectful phrases your child can use to stand up for themselves with confidence—without becoming disrespectful.
1. “Stop it. I don’t like that.”
Short. Direct. Firm.
This tells the other person clearly that their behaviour is not acceptable. It sets a personal boundary and shows self-respect.
2. “That’s not true, and you don’t get to treat me like that.”
This phrase lets the bully know that your child knows their worth. It sends a strong message: “You cannot define me or bring me down.”
3. “I’m walking away because I don’t like how you’re treating me.”
Walking away is not weakness—it’s wisdom. It shows emotional maturity and signals to the bully that they cannot control the situation.
4. “I have friends who treat me kindly. You should try that too.”
A gentle but smart way to flip the script. This reminds the bully that kindness is the better choice, without being rude.
5. “You can think what you want, but I know who I am.”
This is about building inner confidence. Let your child know that people’s opinions don’t define them—they define themselves.
6. “Leave me alone. I’m not playing this game.”
This says, “I see what you’re doing, and I won’t be part of it.” It calls out the behaviour and brings it to a stop.
7. “How would you feel if someone said that to you?”
This question plants a seed of empathy. It gives the other person a moment to reflect and possibly change their behaviour.
8. “I don’t have to listen to mean words. I’m walking away.”
Remind your child that they are not forced to engage with negativity. Leaving is a strong and healthy choice.
9. “If you keep doing this, I’ll talk to an adult I trust.”
Some kids think telling an adult is “snitching”—but it’s not. It’s called protecting yourself. Let your child know it’s okay to ask for help.
10. “You don’t get to make me feel bad about myself.”
This phrase helps your child take back control and guard their self-worth. No one has the right to damage their confidence.
💬 Final Word for Parents
As Nigerian parents in the UK, we often want our children to be “tough” or “strong.” But strength is not just about silence or enduring—it’s about speaking up wisely and knowing your worth. Practice these phrases at home with your child. Help them build the confidence to speak up respectfully, and remind them they always have your support.
Together, let’s raise children who know they are worthy, brave, and deeply loved. ❤️
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