Let’s be real: working with people is not beans. Every Nigerian in the UK has one story or another about a difficult coworker. That colleague who always shows up late, borrows your pen and never returns it, or just finds a way to be rude every blessed day.
Sometimes, it’s just annoying but tolerable. Other times, it starts to affect your peace of mind, your work, and even your reputation. At that point, you need wisdom — the kind that helps you stay professional while still keeping your Naija composure.
Why It’s Important to Handle Difficult Coworkers the Right Way
Let’s face it, we didn’t cross seven seas to come and be stressed at work. And while you may not vibe with everyone in your workplace, learning how to deal with tension can protect your mental health, help you stay focused, and avoid unnecessary drama.
According to research, over 65% of employees hang out or talk to coworkers outside the office. In the UK, where isolation is real and loneliness is a silent battle, having good relationships at work makes a huge difference — especially for us Nigerians missing that community vibe from back home.
But unfortunately, not every workplace has that “we’re all one family” feel. Sometimes, all it takes is one person to turn the office into a battlefield. So let’s explore how to handle such characters Naija-style, with wisdom, calm, and (when needed) small but firm fire. 🔥
Step 1: Start With Yourself 🙇🏽♂️
Before you point fingers, check yourself small. Sometimes the way someone acts may remind you of past issues or even traits you don’t like in yourself.
Ask:
- Is this person lazy or just going through a tough time?
- Are they rude, or are you stressed and reading too much into things?
Talk it out with someone you trust, or even jot your thoughts down. Processing your emotions privately helps you avoid wahala later. And remember: you too could be someone else’s “difficult coworker” — na truth be that. Self-awareness is power.
5 Types of Difficult Coworkers (and How to Handle Them)
- The Sloth 🐢
They move like snails while you’re out here giving 100%.
👉🏾 What to do: Don’t rush to label them lazy. Gently ask if something’s wrong or how you can align timelines. If the talk doesn’t help, involve a manager — respectfully. - The Bellyacher 🙄
They always have something negative to say — about work, people, even the weather.
👉🏾 What to do: Check if there’s any truth in their complaints. If not, balance the energy with positivity: “Actually, I thought the meeting went well.” Small comments like that can shift the vibe. - The Spotlight Hog 🎤
Every team win somehow becomes their personal victory lap.
👉🏾 What to do: Give them small praise where it’s due, but don’t let them steal your shine. If things go too far, speak to your manager and set the record straight. - The Hotshot 🕴️
This one thinks they know everything. They bulldoze meetings and dismiss everyone else’s ideas.
👉🏾 What to do: Sometimes, stroking their ego a little (“What do you think about this idea?”) softens them. If not, speak up firmly and respectfully when they overstep. - The Gossip 🗣️
Very friendly, very chatty — until the gist turns toxic.
👉🏾 What to do: If they bring wahala to your desk, excuse yourself politely. You can still be friendly without joining in the gist that causes tension or drama.
5 Practical Tips for Nigerians Navigating Difficult Workplaces
- Limit Your Time with Them
Not every hello must turn into gist. Keep it brief, stay polite, and mind your own lane. - Control Your Reaction
Some people just like to provoke. Don’t give them the reaction they want. Take a breather, think it through, and act like the mature Naija abroad professional you are. - Stay Positive
Joy is contagious. Greet people, smile when you can, and carry good vibes. It helps your mental health and improves the environment for others too. - Keep It Professional
Don’t let anyone distract you from your goals. Whether it’s a promotion, permanent contract, or peace of mind — protect your space. - Ask for Help if Needed
If you’ve tried and nothing works, go through the right channels: HR, your manager, or even a mentor. No shame in that. Sometimes speaking up is the most powerful thing you can do.
Final Word: Protect Your Peace 🕊️
You didn’t come to the UK to add office stress to the hustle. If someone’s making work unbearable, don’t suffer in silence. Use wisdom. Use your voice. And above all — protect your peace.
Your 9 to 5 doesn’t have to feel like punishment. With the right tools, you can make the workplace friendlier — not just for yourself, but for your team too.
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