Breaking the Silence: Men’s Mental Health Matters
In Nigerian culture, men are often seen as providers, protectors, and pillars of strength. While these expectations are deeply ingrained, they can also create immense pressure, leading to stress, anxiety, and even depression. The reality is that mental health struggles do not discriminate, yet Nigerian men, particularly those in the UK, are less likely to seek help.
In light of this, it is essential to consider the role of mental health assessments before marriage and throughout married life. Just as couples undergo medical screenings before tying the knot, mental health evaluations should become a norm to ensure long-term well-being for both partners.
The Hidden Crisis: Men’s Mental Health in Numbers
Studies have shown that:
- 1 in 8 men experience common mental health problems like anxiety and depression.
- Suicide is the leading cause of death for men under 50.
- 74% of all suicides in England and Wales are committed by men—with the highest rates found among men aged 50 to 54.
These alarming statistics highlight the urgency of addressing men’s mental health. Yet, many Nigerian men in the UK continue to suffer in silence due to cultural expectations and societal stigma.
The Barriers: Why Nigerian Men Don’t Seek Help
Several factors contribute to Nigerian men’s reluctance to address their mental health:
- Cultural Expectations – The belief that men must always be ‘strong’ prevents open discussions about emotional struggles.
- Fear of Judgment – Many men worry that seeking help will make them appear weak or incapable.
- Lack of Awareness – Some are simply unaware of the symptoms of mental health conditions or where to seek support.
- Religious and Social Pressures – While faith is a source of strength, it can sometimes lead to dismissing mental health concerns as purely spiritual battles rather than medical issues.
Marriage and Mental Health: A Two-Way Street
Marriage is a partnership that requires emotional balance, communication, and resilience. A mentally healthy husband is better equipped to handle relationship challenges, support his spouse, and contribute to a harmonious family environment.
Without proper mental health support, unresolved stress, trauma, or past experiences can manifest in negative ways—leading to conflicts, emotional distance, or even domestic violence. Mental health assessments before marriage can:
- Identify potential mental health concerns early.
- Encourage open communication between partners.
- Provide access to counseling and coping strategies.
- Help build stronger, healthier relationships.
How to Encourage Men to Prioritize Mental Health
If you have a brother, friend, or husband who may be struggling, here are three simple steps to support them:
- Check-In Regularly – A simple “How are you, really?” can open the door to meaningful conversations.
- Listen Without Judgment – Avoid dismissing their feelings or offering immediate solutions. Just being there makes a difference.
- Encourage Professional Help – Normalize seeking support from therapists, counselors, or mental health organizations.
Available Support for Nigerian Men in the UK
Several organizations offer support tailored to men’s mental health:
- Mind UK – Provides mental health resources and helplines.
- Samaritans – Offers confidential support for those struggling with suicidal thoughts.
- Andy’s Man Club – A men’s mental health support group.
- CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) – Focused on suicide prevention for men.
Final Thoughts: A Call for Change
Mental health is just as important as physical health, and it’s time we start treating it that way. For Nigerian men in the UK, embracing mental health assessments before and during marriage can lead to healthier relationships and better overall well-being.
Let’s challenge outdated stereotypes, encourage conversations, and ensure that our men get the support they need. A strong man is not one who suppresses his emotions, but one who acknowledges them and seeks help when necessary.
The conversation starts with us. Let’s keep talking.
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